Some leaders walk into a room and command attention—without saying a word. Others drain the energy from a meeting before they even sit down. We’ve all felt it. But we rarely talk about it.
Leadership is more than words and actions. It’s an energy field—a force that shapes how people feel, think, and behave in your presence. The best leaders know how to manage their energy, not just their tasks. Because leadership isn’t just about what you do—it’s about what it feels like to be led by you.
Science backs this up. Studies in neuroscience and psychology have shown that human beings are wired to sense and mirror the emotional and energetic states of those around them. This is known as emotional contagion, and it happens in every leadership interaction—whether we realise it or not.
This isn’t soft science. It’s the foundation of how trust, motivation, and culture are built.
Think back to a time when you were in a room with a leader who made you feel focused, motivated, or safe. Now, compare that to a time when a leader’s presence made you feel stressed, disengaged, or hesitant to speak up.
I once worked as a consultant in an organisation where the team was led by a highly unpredictable leader. No one ever knew what mood she’d be in when she walked through the door. The energy in the office hinged entirely on her state of mind. Some days, she was composed and engaging; other days, she was sharp, impatient, and withdrawn.
The result? Chaos. Everyone was on tenterhooks, waiting for the first signal of how the day would unfold. The team had learned to scan her body language, tone, even the pace of her footsteps to gauge whether to stay out of her way or approach her with an idea. People second-guessed themselves, withheld opinions, and operated from fear rather than trust. Over time, stress levels rose, and several team members ended up on long-term sick leave. I found myself spending more time counselling exhausted employees than focusing on strategy.
Now contrast that with another experience I had in a meeting with a client whose leadership presence was the complete opposite. In a room of highly ambitious, high-performing individuals, she cultivated calm. She didn’t dominate the conversation; she created space for it.
At the start of a particularly intense project meeting, she invited the team to check in—not with updates, but with how they were feeling. No one hesitated to be honest. You could almost feel the heartbeat of the team—there was safety, connection, and trust in the room. Even when deadlines were looming, even when the stakes were high, people remained grounded, focused, and engaged. They weren’t afraid to challenge ideas because they knew the space was built for openness, not hierarchy.
The difference was stark: One leader’s energy created tension and uncertainty; the other’s created cohesion and resilience.
To understand how this kind of presence in leadership works, let’s break it down into three levels:
1. Physical Presence
Your posture, breath, and body language send signals before you speak. Research shows that leaders who take up space (open body language, steady breath, intentional movement) are perceived as more credible and trustworthy. Meanwhile, leaders who shrink into themselves—crossed arms, shallow breathing, rapid speech—project uncertainty.
2. Emotional Presence
People don’t just listen to your words; they feel your emotional state. Leaders who regulate their emotions—who stay calm in crises, grounded in conflict, and open in uncertainty—build psychological safety in their teams. Those who react impulsively, shut people down, or operate from fear? They erode trust.
3. Relational Presence
The best leaders make you feel like you matter. They listen fully, make eye contact, and engage with genuine curiosity. They don’t just hear what’s being said—they notice what’s not being said. They create spaces where others feel safe to contribute, challenge, and innovate.
How to Strengthen Your Leadership Presence
The energy you bring into a room is the energy that sets the tone for everyone in it. Your presence can either create clarity or confusion, trust or tension, engagement or exhaustion. The leaders who truly make an impact are not the ones who work the hardest or talk the loudest, but those who shape the emotional field around them with intention.
At Leaderbeing, we believe leadership is an energy exchange. It’s about cultivating awareness, emotional intelligence, and behavioural range so that your presence becomes a force for connection, resilience, and inspiration.
So, before your next conversation, ask yourself: What energy am I about to bring into this room? And is it the energy my team needs to thrive?